I really want to be a good mom. I want to be generous in love and consistent in discipline. I want to dig in, not merely get through the day or a stage.
And the honest truth is, I love this task I’ve been called to. I really do.
I love the newborn and baby stage. I love the toddler age.
I know there are many events and opportunities I’ve “missed” these past four and a half years, but I don’t even care. The moments spent with my children have been worth any experience I could have had otherwise.
But with that being said, this job is hard. Really hard. And there are two realities that annoyingly get in the way:
1). I am a sinner. 2). My kids are sinners.
And some days, we seem to be a little more sinful than on others.
I was recently having such a day and I expressed my frustration to Grant saying, “I don’t know if it’s me or if it’s them.”
He replied, “Both.”
This week, we have been in Wheaton, IL while Grant is conducting PhD research in the Billy Graham Archives.
Today, while he was going through documents, he thoughtfully pulled an article he knew I would like. It is a little piece published in June of 1957 on Ruth Graham, highlighting her role as wife and mother.
I haven’t read much on Mrs. Graham’s life, but the article mentioned that she had a motto she put into practice, “Praise and Pray and Peg away.”
Mrs. Graham was often mothering alone (5 kids) while her famous husband was away preaching.
She did not have it easy.
As moms, at times we may be tempted to think that our lives are particularly difficult.
Our child is more strong willed than someone else’s. Or our husband travels more. Or you name it. I know I’ve been down that road.
While this may be true in some situations, I’ve humbly come to realize that for the most part it is probably not. Everyone has their struggles.
The biggest punch in the gut comparison is more accurately how we handle it.
Mrs. Graham, for example, lived by a little motto.
Praise. Pray. Peg away.
I love that.
Praise God when the first inclination is to complain. Praise Him that He is doing something good even when it feels like He is not. Thank Him for His innumerable blessings. Praise Him for His ever available grace.
Pray. Get on your knees and cry out to God for help. The bed wetting situation? Pray. The picky eater? Pray. The obedience problem? Pray.
He didn’t just promise to listen when you are in the pew. He is always listening!
“For you, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek you.” Psalm 9:10
Peg away. Keep moving. Do the next thing. Wash the next dish. Wipe the tears. Make dinner. Trust God to work in great ways.
I don’t know what tomorrow will hold, but thank you Mrs. Graham for living by a motto that aligns my heart in the good way.
That’s better than any “pick me up,” “me time,” or “break.”
Because being a good mother means quite simply walking in the good way.
So tomorrow I want praise more, pray more, and keep pegging away. And as the insightful Anne Shirley said, “Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?”